Don’t Ignore this Feeling!

Don't Ignore this Feeling! Image of a man reflecting on life.I am not a very emotional person. I don’t “listen to my gut“, I rather tend to over-analyze things and I base my decisions on intellectual reasoning.

That’s why I got most of the important decisions in my life wrong so far!

I have been working at my current job for nearly 10 years now. It has often been an interesting journey, and I sure learned a lot about a whole bunch of stuff. But for years now a feeling grew inside of me which I simply cannot ignore anymore.

Whenever I was unsatisfied with my job, I tried to argue to myself that I should be happy to be where I am… that there are people out there that don’t have a job at all… that there are people who are enduring much worse than what I have to put up with each and every day. But you know what? Knowing that there are worse circumstances than mine doesn’t make me any unhappier!

Don’t get me wrong! It is not that I don’t care about other people’s fate — as a matter of fact, trying to help other people is one of the main reasons why I even started this specific blog in the first place — but the point I am trying to make is this: the best arguments in the world will not discuss your unhappiness away! Either you make a change, or you stay unhappy… forever!

When you try to ignore negative feelings, they tend to grow and get amplified until they are sure to get your attention. They have their ways of surfacing in the worst possible moments, poisoning your thinking and impacting your attitude. You mustn’t let them get this far. Don’t ignore this feeling!

I am currently trying to create another life for myself. During the past decades, I simply went with the flow, never stopping to see where I was heading to. I accepted the general assumptions of my family and my surroundings without any questioning.

Learn (~20 years) → Work (~40 years) → [ Profit (? years) ] → Die.

This is the business plan you get as a teenager. The Profit part is optional, not everyone will get to see it. Is this inspiring to you?

The deeper I delve into the concepts of lifestyle design and entrepreneurship, the more I ask myself how I could continue this far down the road in the wrong direction. I generally consider myself a critical thinker, and somehow I have known for a long time that something was fundamentally flawed, yet I nevertheless went on and lived my life the way others supposed it should be lived. Enough of this!

Do you find yourself in a similar situation? Is a fundamental unhappiness creeping up on you? Is your internal compass indecisive on where you are heading to? Have your core values been shaken? Don’t ignore this feeling! Take action now!

The surprising part is this: the unhappiness that is growing is not caused by your situation, but by the fact that you have not even tried to change it for a prolonged period of time. So, if you do like me and finally take the definitive decision to change the status quo and to push your life into a new direction, this unhappiness will be instantly gone. Sure, you won’t find immediate fulfillment and absolute happiness, but you won’t be miserable about not taking action anymore!

Comments

  1. Great article! I came to the same epiphany earlier this year, and I haven’t looked back since. Best decision I’ve ever made. I wish you all the best in your journey, as well! Life is scarily too short to be miserable and unhappy.

    • Hi Joshua, thanks for the feedback!
      Congratulations on taking the plunge, it is not an easy thing to do. Many people do unfortunately get stuck in the ‘miserable and unhappy’ stage…

  2. I think following the direction of your heart is so important. And so few people have the courage to do so.
    I’ll be including your article in my blog carnival on 1 Nov.

  3. I am the type of person that always has followed my gut! lol! We can’t just ignore inner feelings, I believe this is the in-grained compass that is built in us for direction.
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  4. Hi Alain
    Nice post and great thoughts!

    I am new to your blog and I am happy that I also find people from europe (not only the us) that are doing this passive income thing.
    I started in April this year and i am half there already (income wise), .. hope to take the plunge next spring. I am already preparing to start blogging aswell. I will definitly check your site from time to time! Subscribed to your list!

    Enjoy the ride!
    Thomas
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  5. Hi Thomas,
    Thanks for the feedback.
    Yes, these passive people are more difficult to find outside of the US.
    You’re half way there? Congrats! What have you been using so far to generate your income (if you’re willing to share…)?
    Your website is still ‘under construction’, so I will make sure to check back later.
    Our geographical situation seems to be quite similar, so we should definitely exchange experiences.

  6. In my professional every day life I work with unhappy people. I do not mean colleagues. I mean men and women who are so unhappy, have been living a life their families, their environment, their culture thought to be right. (“I should be happy… but I am not.”). Every person tries to seem “alright”. Manages their every day routine… On the face of it everything seems fine… the working mum, the old couple, the ambitious student. But most don’t know that nearly everyone has times where he/she thinks, they can’t cope any more – but they have to cause everyone else seems to get through this… and everyone is so entangled in their own pressures and imperatives not to let anyone know how hard it is. So everyone plays normality. And everyone feels like they’re the only ones breaking down.
    I see that everyday and people are so surprised realising that there is no “normal”, that most people have reached their threshold of discomfort by far but go further and further on – for this is expected. One “should” be able to do that.
    It takes some time to see that everyone has different thresholds and needs different circumstances that are appropriate for the species (meaning their personality in this case). I think it is great you to a step to the side and managed to take your life into your hands the way you want it. Chapeau! I wish you all the best!

  7. Wow, well said! You are so right, it is quite a difficult task to find a TRULY happy person…
    Thank you for your wonderful words!

  8. I am excited to find your blog. I just read a few of your posts, and this one really spoke to me. My husband and I finally left our 9 – 5 or, rather, 60+ hour work weeks, and we have never looked back and wished we had done differently. Our health, disposition, marriage, and learning improved. We now look forward to every day.

  9. Hi, thanks for participating in my blog carnival. Volume 3 of the Work-at-Home Blog Carnival where your post is included is now live.
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  10. Alain,
    What an inspiring post! I love reading about others who have made the decision to get into the business of living on their terms. My husband and I are currently undergoing the journey to passive income sites and hope to be “live” within the next couple of months. We look forward to reading more from you. Keep up the great writing.

  11. It’s not easy to deviate from the path that you’ve been walking on for so many years.. Kudos to your for making the jump. Looking forward to hearing your success stories in the future.
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  12. I’m extremely impressed together with your writing talents as neatly as with the structure in your weblog. Is this a paid topic or did you modify it yourself? Either way stay up the excellent quality writing, it’s rare to peer a nice blog like this one today..

  13. Hi Al,

    Thanks for the great read. The main problem is the safety of the comfort zone. People get too comfortable and end up living day by day .

    When you have the responsibilities of children, paying for a home, saving and much, much more I can understand why some of us sacrifice our happiness rather than take a risk.

    My advice is when someone does decide they want to leave their 9-5 and own a business – do it head first and hold nothing back!

    Go for it – Failure is not an option!
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  14. I love your article! Negative emotions are not meant to be ignored. They are meant to be accepted, and once we can accept and feel our negative feelings, we can easily release and let them go. We will get new experiences and more positive feelings if we just always try to recognize on what we feel right now.
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